How to Make Time for Kids and Partner

Juan & Belinda Gonzalez

6/5/20232 min read

Do you ever feel like there aren't enough hours in the day to be both a good parent and a good partner? Balancing these two roles can be a challenge, but with the right strategies, it's possible to spend plenty of time with your kids while still fostering a strong relationship with your partner. In this blog post, we'll explore some practical tips and techniques we have learned in our 21 years together. From planning alone time for each other to learning about your family's interests, these strategies will strengthen your bond with your children and your partner.

  • Plan Alone Time for Each Other

Making time for your partner is crucial to maintaining a strong relationship. Set aside regular date nights, plan couples' trips, or even enjoy a staycation in your own city. Whatever activities you and your partner enjoy, prioritize them and schedule them in advance. While it may be challenging to find a babysitter for young children, making alone time a priority and planning it ahead of time ensures that you have something to look forward to together.

  • Make Time for Your Kids

Just as you make time for your partner, it's important to set aside dedicated time for your children. Plan game nights, trips, or special activities that allow you to connect with them on a deeper level. Game nights are a great way to bond, and involving your children in the decision-making process ensures their active participation. Additionally, annual trips or traditions create lasting memories and give your kids something to look forward to.

  • Learn About Each Other's Interests

To strengthen the family bond, take the time to learn about your partner's and children's interests. Engage in conversations about their hobbies, favorite shows, or video games. Actively listen to their passions, ask questions, and show genuine enthusiasm. This not only strengthens your relationship but also allows you to incorporate their interests into family activities. Bringing back small souvenirs from your trips or surprising them with thoughtful gifts shows that you were thinking of them even when you were apart.

  • Prioritize and Schedule

Creating a balance between parenting and partnership requires careful scheduling. Understand that the distribution of time won't always be equal, especially when managing work and other responsibilities. However, allocating specific blocks of time for both your partner and your children ensures that everyone feels valued and prioritized. Stick to the planned schedules as much as possible, avoiding frequent rescheduling or cancellations, as it may convey a lack of commitment.

  • Embrace Imperfection and Focus on What Matters

It's important to embrace the fact that nobody can do everything perfectly. Avoid comparing yourself to other parents or families who seem to have it all figured out. Instead, focus on doing your best with the time and resources you have. Cherish the simple, meaningful moments with your children, as they often form the most cherished memories. Your good intentions and efforts to be present and attentive will be recognized and appreciated by both your partner and your children.

  • Conclusion

Finding a balance between being a parent and a partner is an ongoing journey that requires conscious effort and planning. By prioritizing alone time with your partner, scheduling activities for your children, learning about each other's interests, and embracing imperfections, you can create a nurturing and fulfilling family dynamic. Remember, the most important thing is to try your best and focus on what truly matters – the love and connection you share with your family.